19 Things to Stop Doing in Your 20's

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I recently came across the article, '19 things to stop doing in your 20s' and so many of them resonated with me.  I think we all have moments of playing the victim, feeling stuck, seeking approval, committing to things we know we cannot live up to and being fearful of the unknown.  I feel like I need to put this list somewhere visible to mentally check myself when I start playing 'pitty party jaime'.  

here are a couple that stuck out in my mind...

1. Stop placing all the blame on other people for how they interact with you. To an extent, people treat you the way you want to be treated. A lot of social behavior is cause and effect. Take responsibility for (accept) the fact that you are the only constant variable in your equation.

6. Stop identifying yourself as a cliche and start treating yourself as an individual. Constantly checking your life against a prewritten narrative or story of how things “should” be is a bought-into way of life. It’s sort of like renting your identity. It isn’t you. You are more nuanced than the narrative you try to fit yourself into, more complex than the story that “should” be happening.

10. Stop blaming yourself for being human. You’re fine. Having a little anxiety is fine. Being scared is fine. Your secrets are fine. You’re well-meaning. You’re intelligent. You’re blowing it out of proportion. You’re fine.

17. Stop agreeing to do things that you know you’ll never actually do. It doesn’t help anyone. To a certain extent, it’s a social norm to be granted a ‘free pass’ when you don’t do something for someone that you said you were going to do. People notice when you don’t follow through, though, especially if it’s above 50% of the time.

19. Stop being afraid. 

read the entire article here.